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Making Friends

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I think that a huge part about making friends is being a friend to yourself.  Sometimes this is not a very easy thing to do?  But how can we love others if we do not first feel love ourselves?

The two great commandments are to love God with all your heart and to love your neighbor as yourself.  In these two commandments there are three parties that require loving:  yourself, God, and your neighbor…If you had to put these in order of importance to love, what would it be?

It would be 1.  Love God 2.  Love yourself and 3.  Love your neighbor

Part of making friends is being a friend to yourself.  Happiness comes one step at a time, and it does include love.

Marriage

Is your heart open to feel God's love?

Is your heart open to feel God’s love?

 

Is your marriage sick?  Does it need healing?  What are you doing to help it?  “If we seek Him, the Lord will help us and heal us.”

 

 

A New Year

How do your closest friends make you feel?

How do your closest friends make you feel?

Each new year we have the opportunity to make new goals for ourselves.  Perhaps this year we can work on the relationships we have with others.  How are you treating your spouse? friends? children? co-workers?  Do you see something in them that is not quite right?  Are you looking through clean windows as you look at them?

 

The Importance of Family

Families can be together forever. They are the central to God's plan of Happiness.

Family

In 1995, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints came out with an official document from the first presidency.  It is entitled:  “The Family:  A Proclamation to the World.”  Since this is a proclamation, not only to the church members but also to the world at large, I thought I would share it with you today.

It goes as follows:

“THE FAMILY


A PROCLAMATION TO THE WORLD

The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints

WE, THE FIRST PRESIDENCY and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

ALL HUMAN BEINGS—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.

IN THE PREMORTAL REALM, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshipped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize their divine destiny as heirs of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.

THE FIRST COMMANDMENT that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

WE DECLARE the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.

HUSBAND AND WIFE have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations.

THE FAMILY is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.

WE WARN that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

WE CALL UPON responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.”

Men

Men have the potential to hold the priesthood, the power of God on the earth today.

Men

Recently, I have been reminded over and over again about how important men are.  Men have the ability to hold and have the power of God on the earth today.  They have the right to hold the priesthood.  This is the power of God that is on the earth today.

It has been said that men are to be the ‘head’ of the home.  They are to work as partners with their wives in equality.  One is not greater than the other.  Men have great courage and responsibility as it comes to providing for the family.

Jokes about Men

I have found in my life that I cannot really put up with jokes about men, or jokes that degrade men.  They are sons of God and have the ability or potential to become worthy priesthood holders.  It sickens me to be in the midst of others who are degrading men or making them seem like people of no worth.

Worthy, righteous men are amazing.  They are wonderful.  I have met men in my life that have set a whole new standard for men for me.  These men have been worthy, righteous men who strive to always come closer to their Lord.  They seek to help and bless those around them.  They treat women with respect and do not take the easy way out.

As a Son of God

Just as a son of God who hold the Aaronic Priesthood there is great purpose.  The Purposes of the Aaronic priesthood are as follows:

Become converted to the gospel of Jesus Christ and live its teachings.

Serve faithfully in priesthood callings, and fulfill the responsibilities of priesthood offices.

Give meaningful service.

Prepare and live worthily to receive the Melchizedek Priesthood and temple ordinances.

Prepare to serve an honorable full-time mission.

Obtain as much education as possible.

Prepare to become a worthy husband and father.

Give proper respect to women, girls, and children.”

Men have a responsibility to uphold the purposes of the priesthood.  It is God’s power on earth and they must keep themselves worthy to have that great power and gift.  They have responsibility to treat women, others, and themselves with respect.

Potential

Even men who are not as they could be have the potential to be great.  Are we treating them as those people who have that potential?  Do we allow them to grow and to become better?  Or do we continually push them down and leave them by the wayside?  Do we make fun of them and degrade their worth?  They are sons of God, and we should treat them as such.

If you are male, do you live up to your potential?  What can you do to make people know who you are as a worthy son of God with the capacity to hold His power?  How do you use the divine worth that you were given?  Are you truly a man?

Looking back… Don’t do it.

Don't look back

Detriments

Looking back can be a detriment to our progress.  Sometimes it can even trigger us back into a habit.  Where we were before is not where we are now.  We become different people every moment of our lives, because we have more moments and more experience behind us.

It is really hard at times to live in the present, but that is what we can control.  Right now.  We cannot control our past.  What has happened, has happened and we must move forward, hopefully to become a better person.

It is easy to beat ourselves up for things that we have done in the past, or for things that have happened to us in the past.  Satan likes us to dwell on our imperfections and mistakes.  He likes us to think that we have no worth at all.

Worth

But we do have individual worth.  In Doctrine and Covenants 18:10 it reads:

“Remember the worth of souls is great in the sight of God.”

You have worth.  No matter the past mistakes you have done, you have worth.  You are not a sum of your mistakes.  You are more than your flaws.  You are a precious son or daughter of God.  He loves you.  He helps us to move forward in life.

Moving Forward

To be able to move forward in our lives, we must overcome our difficulties and mistakes by turning to the Savior.  We must repent and not turn back to them.  Sometimes this takes a huge mental, emotional, and physical effort.

Another way we must move forward is by not living in the past.  Perhaps we miss the good times when life was so happy.  Perhaps we miss times in our lives where we were full of joy.  We need to remember that we cannot go back to that point.  We must live now.  This is the time that we have.

Similarly to looking back, we must not wait to act by saying that in the future I will do something.  Or by saying that when I graduate, get a job, get married, have a family, go to college, finish this project, I will be able to do something to improve my life.

A Waiting Period

There should not be a waiting period to living life or to becoming better people.  We can do this now as we turn to the Lord for help and change little things in our lives.  We must not wait to become better individuals.  In Alma 34:32-34 in the Book of Mormon, it reads:

“For behold, this life is the time for men to prepare to meet God; yea, behold the day of this life is the day for men to perform their labors.

And now, as I said unto you before, as yea have had so many witnesses, therefore, I beseech of you that ye do not procrastinate the day of your repentance until the end; for after this day of life, which is given us to prepare for eternity; behold, if we do not improve our time while in this life, then cometh the night of darkness wherein there can be no labor performed.

Ye cannot say, when ye are brought to that awful crisis, that I will repent, that I will return to my God.  Nay, ye cannot say this; for that same spirit which doth possess your bodies at the time that ye go out of this life, that same spirit will have power to possess your body in that eternal world.”

Our Heavenly Father helps us to get past our mistakes.  He sent His Son so that we can repent of our sins and have them not harrow us up anymore.  We can be freed from our past mistakes.  I love this quote by Gordon B. Hinckley:

“We can improve today without waiting for tomorrow.”

Our lives can be better every moment that we live them.  It may not be an easy thing to do, but it is definitely worth it.  You are not chained down by living in your past.  You are free to move forward.

Quality Life

Quality life is found as we live in the present with knowledge of where we want to end up in our future.  We can make changes now to become better than we are.  This quote by Marvin J. Ashton really summarizes this concept:

“A quality life is God’s greatest wish for us.  Life is to be lived well in whatsoever circumstances we find ourselves.  There should not be a waiting period…”

Is there a waiting period in your life?  What is causing you not to live now?  Even when we are experiencing hard times in our lives we can strive to do what is right and live a quality life.  Henry B. Eyring said this of the tests in life:

“The greatest test of life is not to endure storms, but to choose the right while they rage.  We are spirit children of a Heavenly Father.”

It takes faith to move on from the past and to choose the right while we experience hard times.  Our Heavenly Father and Savior, Jesus Christ are there to help us.  Let us improve each moment by living in the present with a knowledge of how our living will help get us to the point that we ultimately want to get to.

Broken Trust

Is this ever how you feel?

When glass shatters

The relationship we have with others is so very important.  This relationship, that we may have with our spouse, is vital.  We have a relationship with our God that must be treated like a marriage relationship.  What happens in life when we shatter the precious glass of a relationship we have with another, or when they do this to us?

Life becomes difficult and often hard to live when the glass of relationships shatters.  When trust is breached, we often do not know who to turn to.  We lose faith in others and in ourselves.  We become guarded and put up walls to protect ourselves from others doing similar things to us.  We crave safety and security.

When we do not have the safety and security in the person we most trusted, we gave our lives to in order to become one, we crumble.  Often we let ourselves shatter along with the precious glass of trust in the relationship.  We ask ourselves questions repeatedly about how this happened… Why did this happen?  What did I do wrong?  How can I ever trust him/her again?

We think to ourselves that our lives have just ended.  We may turn to sorrow or anger or frustration, crying our days and nights away or not checking our tempers or fuming within ourselves.  How do we move on with life when it has just blown up in our face?

Our Relationship with the Savior

Consider for a moment your relationship with the Savior.  How has he treated you in this relationship?  Has He ever done anything to lose your trust?  Now, how have you treated Him?  Have you followed His example exactly?  Have you had exact obedience in your life?  What have you done to break His trust in you?

How does he treat you when you break the trust in the relationship?  Does He completely avoid you and abandon you?  Does He give you another chance?  I testify that the Savior does give multiple chances to us.  He is ever patient and forgiving.  We can always turn to our Savior and Redeemer for comfort.

He trusts us enough to forgive us when we repent, and allows us to try again.

Moving On

People are imperfect.  In that way they differ from the Savior.  Sometimes we just cannot trust someone like we trust the Savior or like the Savior trust us because they have tried too many times.  But do we give them a second chance? A third chance?  How many chances do we give until we will no longer allow them into our lives?

Do we treat others as the Savior treats us?  Do we even treat others as we would like ourselves to be treated?  After a breach in trust from one person do we completely and immediately close ourselves off to other people?

How do we open up and allow ourselves to love and be loved again?  The only way this can effectively happen is as we turn to the Savior for help.  He understands.  He has been in our position numerous times.  He was crucified by His own people.  How great is that breach of trust?

In My Life

As I have seen how the Savior has forgiven me and allowed and helped me to move on and slowly begin to regain His trust again, I have had a greater capacity to forgive others and open up my heart again to love.

Surely, I broke the trust of the Savior as I destroyed one of His precious creations by cutting on myself.  I continued to do it as well.  I was not thinking of how it was affecting Him.  I thought only of myself.

But He has forgiven me.  I know this because of the sweet and calming spirit I have felt as I have repented and forsaken this sin.  I know that He remembers my sin no more.  I am assured of this truth as I read Doctrine and Covenants 58: 42-43:

 “Behold, he who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I the Lord, remember them no more.  By this ye may know if a man repenteth of his sins—behold, he will confess them and forsake them.”

The Lord is ever merciful to us.  He trusts us as we follow with exact obedience.  As we recognize the Savior’s hand in our lives we are better able to move on with our own when our lives seem to shatter.  He is there for us.  He is there to help you.