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It Takes an Act of Faith

 

There have been times in my life when I have felt encompassed in darkness.  I have also reached the point where I have wanted and even tried to end my life… but somehow, I am still here.  I am still needed, as are you.  You are needed.  The Lord needs YOU on HIS side.

 

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Creating new friends

So many times in our lives we feel lonely and unappreciated. It is through our friends that we often feel the love that the Savior has for us.

Many times in my life I have felt alone and forgotten. Perhaps you can relate to those feelings. I know that friends help us to feel loved and that scriptures can be a source of peace and friendship. We feel the Savior’s love through the scriptures that we read.

One of my favorite scriptures is found in the Book of Mormon in Alma 18:35:

“35 And a portion of that aSpirit dwelleth in me, which giveth me bknowledge, and also power according to my faith and desires which are in God.”

Christ’s spirit lives in us! He loves us and is a part of us every day. Do we live up to that privilege?

I know He loves us and that we can feel that love through our friends, even the scriptures.

The Lord’s Anointed Speak

As I have been studying the Old Testament these past few weeks, I have been struck recently with the faith of David and His purity.  Even as Saul sought to destroy his life over and over again throughout 1 Samuel 18-26, David remains true to His Lord and does not harm Saul when He is given the opportunities.

As I have been studying the Old Testament these past few weeks, I have been struck recently with the faith of David and His purity.  Even as Saul sought to destroy his life over and over again throughout 1 Samuel 18-26, David remains true to His Lord and does not harm Saul when He is given the opportunities.

David had a great friendship with Saul’s son Jonathan, which helped him to remain safe from Saul’s javelin.

Here are some of the characteristics I listed of Saul, Jonathan, and David from 1 Samuel 18-26:

David

Jonathan

Saul

-Wise

-With the Lord

-Plans

-Trusting

-Kind

-Patient

-Tender

-Charitable

-Prayerful

-Obedient

-Forgiving

-Charitable

-Loving

-Honest

-Reasonable

-Trustworthy

-Jealous

-Fearful

-Has evil spirit

-Bitter

     
     

Friends

Jonathan loved David as his own flesh as it says in 1 Samuel 18:1-3.  He helped to save David’s life numerous times even when it went against the trust of his own father.  I believe that David and Jonathan had such a wonderful friendship because they were both followers of the Lord and wanted to do His will.  Jonathan knew the Lord was with David and that the Lord would protect him.  It is definitely a wonderful thing to have friends who will support and protect you.

I know in my life as I have leaned on my friends for support and they have been there for me, it has helped me to come closer to the Savior and gain His attributes.  These attributes include trust and love.  It is great to be close to those who have the same values and concerns as you do as was the case with Jonathan and David.

The Lord’s Anointed

Saul treated David very poorly because of jealousy.  After David slayed Goliath and the people chanted that David slayed his tens of thousands and Saul slayed thousands of Philistines, Saul was full of jealousy towards David.  He would not let go of it and it led him to hunt down David wherever he went.  Saul sought to take David’s life when David did nothing wrong to deserve this.  While Saul sought to do this, David treated Saul with forgiveness and mercy.  Saul was given to David twice to be able to kill, but David did not take his life or harm him.

I think 1 Samuel 24:17 sums up how Saul treated David and vice versa:

“And he (Saul) said to David, Thou art more righteous than I: for thou hast rewarded me agood, whereas I have rewarded thee evil.”

David did not harm Saul, because Saul was the Lord’s anointed.  He did not want to go against the Lord’s will.  Similarly, we have an opportunity to hear and know of the Lord’s will for us through heeding a prophet’s counsel and listening to the Lord’s anointed.

Prophets and apostles of the Lord will speak to us, each of us on March 30 and April 1.  I hope you will be able to listen and apply some of the counsel and direction they share with us.


You’ve given so much already..

I was talking to my friend last night telling her that she did not need to give me things:  that she had already given me more than I could ever ask for.  She helped me through my depression.  She stopped me from following through on suicidal ideations and actions.  She is and has been a very dear friend to me.

And yet she wants to give me more.  As I was telling her that she did not need to give me more because she had already given so much, I thought of the Savior.  Truly, His gift to us is greater than all that we could ever imagine, and yet He waits to gift us or bless us with more.  His gifts are incomparable to all others.  Take these for example:  immortality (we will all be resurrected, because He was resurrected), forgiveness (He provides a way for us to be made clean and whole again), and eternal life (He not only makes this possible for us, He wants us to live with Him again).

What wonderful gifts.  What a wonderful gift and blessing it is to have the birth of our Savior.  What a wonderful season to truly celebrate His birth and all of the wonderful gifts He has given to each and every one of us.  He loves each of us.  He loves you.  You matter to Him.

Discovering New Friends

How do your closest friends make you feel?

What is a friend?

Webster’s dictionary has numerous definitions for a friend.  A couple that I particularly like are:

“A friend is one attached to another by affection or esteem.

A friend is one that is not hostile.

A friend is a favored companion.”

I think the last definition is my favorite.  What does it mean for one to be a favored companion?  Does this mean that a person continually goes to a friend above another because he/she favors him/her?  What do we share with our friends?  What do they share with us?  How do they make us feel?  How do they help us in life?

I know from experience that my friends have lifted me up when I have been down and they have shared with me things that they may not share with others as I have shared with them the deepest yearnings of my heart, my shortcomings, and my dreams.  Then, they in return help me to reach those dreams.  They support me in my desires for life.

Discovering New Friends

Each of us has the ability to discover new friends and to constantly have friends at our side.  These friends come from the scriptures.  Elder Richard G. Scott recently gave a talk on how scriptures can become our true and cherished friends.  He says:

“The scriptures…can become stalwart friends that are not limited by geography or calendar. They are always available when needed. Their use provides a foundation of truth that can be awakened by the Holy Ghost. Learning, pondering, searching, and memorizing scriptures is like filling a filing cabinet with friends, values, and truths that can be called upon anytime, anywhere in the world.”

He continues to say that:

“A memorized scripture becomes an enduring friend that is not weakened with the passage of time.”

So what do these friends do for us?  How do they make us feel?

Elder Scott explains this in his talk as he states:

“Great power can come from memorizing scriptures. To memorize a scripture is to forge a new friendship. It is like discovering a new individual who can help in time of need, give inspiration and comfort, and be a source of motivation for needed change.”

“Scriptures can calm an agitated soul, giving peace, hope, and a restoration of confidence in one’s ability to overcome the challenges of life. They have potent power to heal emotional challenges when there is faith in the Savior. They can accelerate physical healing.”

Who wouldn’t want a friend like that?  Everyone has the ability and the opportunity to forge these new friendships.  I know that through my experience of depression that having the scriptures as my close friends helped me and lifted me up when I was at my lowest.  One of these scriptures that comforted me in my time of need is found in the Book of Mormon in Ether 2:25:

“And behold, I prepare you against these things; for ye cannot cross this great deep save I prepare you against the waves of the sea, and the winds which have gone forth, and the floods which shall come.  Therefore what will ye that I should prepare for you that ye may have light when ye are swallowed up in the depths of the sea?”

This is the Lord talking to the brother of Jared, but I felt the power of His words directly to me as I was struggling.  The Lord does prepare us for the waves and storms of life.  He is ever there to help us and protect us.  He asks us what we would have Him do to help us… He is just waiting for us to ask Him for His help.  He is there.  He has given us stalwart and enduring friends in the scriptures.  Let us accept and receive His gift, help, comfort, and support.

Filters in Our Vision

How do you view yourself? How do you view others? Does your vision have filters?

Seeing Clearly

Do we allow ourselves to see clearly?  To see ourselves clearly?  What does it really mean to see clearly?  When I think about seeing clearly, I think about not having clouded or distorted images.  Many of us have dealt with ourselves or have seen images of people who suffer from eating disorders seeing themselves in distorted ways.  These are the examples of when a really skinny person looks in the mirror and the mirror shows someone who is abnormally huge.

That is only one example of distortion.  I think that a lot of distortion comes from the media we view and just the day to day things we allow ourselves to come in contact with.  So, is it even possible to see ourselves or others through clear eyes without distortion or cloudiness?

I believe that the clearest view of the world and of ourselves and of others that we can ever can have comes from seeing as Heavenly Father sees.  This is because He is the one who created us all, so it is through His eyes that things are clear.  He is the creator, so He knows how things are to be viewed.

This is very true in art and theatre as well.  The creator of a play, per se, the playwright, is the one who knows how the play is to be viewed, or what it was intended to bring across.  The directors of plays and producers and such put their lenses on it or their views on top of the original view and in a sense distort the play by degrees.

Theatre Lighting

In theatre, there are many different ways to affect the lighting on the stage or in the auditorium.  Sometimes stage lights have gels in them that change their color.  Other times there gobos are put in to create a stencil or pattern-like effect.  Sometimes, both are used.  Still other time, lights are purposely not focused clearly to fade the harshness of the edges of the light.  Basically, there are many ways in which the light is filtered before it reaches the stage to create what many call ‘theatrical lighting.’

Do you have theatrical viewing or lighting in your life?  Do you purposely allow or put filters on the way in which you view the world?  I think in today’s society it is hard for one not to allow society and media to put certain filters on our viewing of society and humanity.

Little girls being in beauty pageants and wearing bikinis when they are toddlers is just one example of how the media and society is telling us to view girls and women.  It is one way in which the media and society start little boys, at a very young age to expect girls to be sensual and appealing on the outside.

How do you allow society to shape your vision of others and of yourself?  Do you stand for what you believe in or do you allow yourself to be swayed with the popular belief?  Do you stand up for someone when a group of your friends are gossiping about them or talking badly about them behind his or her back?  Or do you join in the belittling?  Are you able to see past the way that the crowd views other individuals?  Is your vision clear enough to do so?

How we get a clearer view

So some may be wondering how we come to this clearer view.  I believe that it all comes from drawing closer to our Heavenly Father and our Savior Jesus Christ.  They love us.  They have a perfectly clear view, without judgment or filtering.  They have a perfect love.  As we come closer to them and become more like them, we will be better able to have a clearer view ourselves of others, the world, and ourselves.

We come closer to Christ and Heavenly Father by doing the Father’s will, by keeping His commandments, by enduring to the end, and by doing the simple things among other things.  There are so many ways in which we can find ourselves coming closer to Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ.

One way that I have found that has helped me come closer is to write how I see the Lord in my life each day.  Another way is by being careful with what I choose to view or surround myself with.  As Christ and Heavenly Father are pure, I want to be pure.

How can you personally come closer to Christ?  What do you have to work on?  As you work on this and continually strive and work towards coming closer to Christ, your vision will be cleared and life becomes more meaningful and less bitter, cruel, and cynical.  Life becomes better as we clear our vision.