Living the good Life
So, things are going just fine in your life. You go to school and/or have a job, have time to spend with your family, can’t remember the last time you seriously broke down and cried. Yeah, you have little things that go on that need to be fixed, but you are happy. You have friends and enjoy talking with and spending time with them. They love being around you because you are happy and help them to feel happy as well.
Life is going good. You are doing the things you are supposed to be doing and making choices that help to lead you back to your home in heaven. You are making decisions that lead you to true happiness.
This seemed to be my life last September. And then October came.
The Hard Times
I honestly didn’t really recognize a huge shift in my life to begin with. Things start small and they build up over time. I noticed that I wasn’t as motivated anymore and I was easily irritated with little things. I still went to work and when I was with friends and other people, I put on a happy face the best I could. I didn’t want people to worry about me.
Trying to be something other than what I really was, made it even harder when I was alone. I started becoming extremely weepy with no motivation. I would often turn down invitations to do things with friends and I started isolating because I didn’t have the energy to pretend to be happy.
One night, I quit my job after breaking down crying in the middle of the restaurant. I just couldn’t do it anymore. It seemed as if my happy, good life came to an abrupt end, like I was thrown against a huge mountain and put into the fire.
Perhaps you as well have had this experience in your life. You wonder why something happened to you. You wonder why you are dealing with a particular trial. You can’t seem to remember doing anything wrong or anything that would have caused this to happen. Why me? you ask.
Sometimes hard times come because we have done something wrong in our lives and need to be brought back to our senses to get back on track. But the times you really ask yourself why me are perhaps when you cannot see something that you have done terribly wrong that would cause a particular trial in your life.
Why was it me who lost a child? Why is it me that is going through depression? Why is it me who has to battle with cancer? Why is it me who has an abusive parent or spouse? Why is it me who can’t find a job? Why is it me who seems to have certain temptations? Why is it me that has to move to a new place? Why is it me who was laid off work? Why is it me who seems to have no friends? Why is it me?
In Revelations 3:19 in the New Testament it reads:
“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.”
The Lord loves us. He wants us to become even better people. By chastening us, he allows us to not become complacent, but to grow spiritually and physically. We must remember that even during our period of trial, He is there to help us and to make us light. In Mosiah 24:14-15 in the Book of Mormon it reads:
“And I will also ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders, that even you cannot feel them upon your backs, even while you are in bondage; and this will I do that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter, and that ye may know of a surety that I, the Lord God do visit my people in their afflictions. And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon Alma and his brethren were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord.”
The Lord knows what each of us need and who needs us perfectly. By going through afflictions and hard times in our life, not only are we refined to become more like Christ, we are also better able to help and comfort those around us. We learn things that we never may have learned had it not been for a particular trial.
The little steps and ways we react to situations in our life, help determine the person we ultimately become. Sometimes people around us need to know what is going on in our lives so that they can help. It is usually easier to overcome hard times in your life when you have a support system in place to help you and to lift you up. Remember that Heavenly Father is always there. We just need to pray for His help. Perhaps as we choose the small steps that lead to true happiness always, we can know that as we face challenges in life, something is not wrong with us. We can know that our Heavenly Father is just trying to refine us into more beautiful people.