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It Takes an Act of Faith

 

There have been times in my life when I have felt encompassed in darkness.  I have also reached the point where I have wanted and even tried to end my life… but somehow, I am still here.  I am still needed, as are you.  You are needed.  The Lord needs YOU on HIS side.

 

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You are not alone

“It is your reaction to adversity, not the adversity itself that will determine your life story”

 

A message of Christ

 

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Overcoming Loneliness

We can overcome loneliness in our lives as we follow the Savior’s example to forget ourselves in service.

While I was struggling with depression, I often felt lonely and never really felt to do anything about it, but those few times that I decided to reach out and serve somebody else, I felt better.  I was not so lonely.  It seemed as if I was filled with light that would not go away while I was serving.  It made me happier.

It was great to feel like I was blessing someone else’s life.  We truly do forget ourselves when we serve others.  It is a healing process.  I believe that the Lord knew that and that is why He gave us such a perfect example of service.

Matthew 25:40 reads:

“And the King shall answer and say unto them:  Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”

When we serve others, we are serving the Lord.  As we serve the Lord, He desires to bless us more.  He comforts us and encircles us in the arms of His love.

President Thomas S. Monson once said:

“Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.”

The Lord gave us the example to care for and reach out to the one.  Each individual is important.  Each is a beloved son or daughter of God.

Truly, we can overcome loneliness as we follow the Savior’s example to love.

Why Me?

Why me?

Living the good Life

So, things are going just fine in your life.  You go to school and/or  have a job, have time to spend with your family, can’t remember the last time you seriously broke down and cried.  Yeah, you have little things that go on that need to be fixed, but you are happy.  You have friends and enjoy talking with and spending time with them.  They love being around you because you are happy and help them to feel happy as well.

Life is going good.  You are doing the things you are supposed to be doing and making choices that help to lead you back to your home in heaven.  You are making decisions that lead you to true happiness.

This seemed to be my life last September.  And then October came.

The Hard Times

I honestly didn’t really recognize a huge shift in my life to begin with.  Things start small and they build up over time.  I noticed that I wasn’t as motivated anymore and I was easily irritated with little things.  I still went to work and when I was with friends and other people, I put on a happy face the best I could.  I didn’t want people to worry about me.

Trying to be something other than what I really was, made it even harder when I was alone.  I started becoming extremely weepy with no motivation.  I would often turn down invitations to do things with friends and I started isolating because I didn’t have the energy to pretend to be happy.

One night, I quit my job after breaking down crying in the middle of the restaurant.  I just couldn’t do it anymore.  It seemed as if my happy, good life came to an abrupt end, like I was thrown against a huge mountain and put into the fire.

Perhaps you as well have had this experience in your life.  You wonder why something happened to you.  You wonder why you are dealing with a particular trial.  You can’t seem to remember doing anything wrong or anything that would have caused this to happen.  Why me?  you ask.

Why Me?

Sometimes hard times come because we have done something wrong in our lives and need to be brought back to our senses to get back on track.  But the times you really ask yourself why me are perhaps when you cannot see something that you have done terribly wrong that would cause a particular trial in your life.

Why was it me who lost a child?  Why is it me that is going through depression?  Why is it me who has to battle with cancer?  Why is it me who has an abusive parent or spouse?  Why is it me who can’t find a job?  Why is it me who seems to have certain temptations?  Why is it me that has to move to a new place?  Why is it me who was laid off work?  Why is it me who seems to have no friends?  Why is it me?

In Revelations 3:19 in the New Testament it reads:

As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.”

The Lord loves us.  He wants us to become even better people.  By chastening us, he allows us to not become complacent, but to grow spiritually and physically.    We must remember that even during our period of trial, He is there to help us and to make us light.  In Mosiah 24:14-15 in the Book of Mormon it reads:

“And I will also ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders, that even you cannot feel them upon your backs, even while you are in bondage; and this will I do that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter, and that ye may know of a surety that I, the Lord God do visit my people in their afflictions.  And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon Alma and his brethren were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord.”

The Lord knows what each of us need and who needs us perfectly.  By going through afflictions and hard times in our life, not only are we refined to become more like Christ, we are also better able to help and comfort those around us.  We learn things that we never may have learned had it not been for a particular trial.

The little steps and ways we react to situations in our life, help determine the person we ultimately become.  Sometimes people around us need to know what is going on in our lives so that they can help.  It is usually easier to overcome hard times in your life when you have a support system in place to help you and to lift you up.  Remember that Heavenly Father is always there.  We just need to pray for His help.  Perhaps as we choose the small steps that lead to true happiness always, we can know that as we face challenges in life, something is not wrong with us.  We can know that our Heavenly Father is just trying to refine us into more beautiful people.

Past Loneliness…

You are not alone...

Feeling Alone

Have you ever been in a room full of people and felt completely and utterly alone?  Even when you knew people who were in that group of people?  I know that I have.  Sometimes in life you just feel like no one can relate to you, that no one understands.  People may talk like they understand, but sometimes you just want to scream at them YOU HAVE NO CLUE what I am going through right now.

Sometimes in life we feel like no one understands, that we are going through our trials by ourselves and that no one cares.  Sometimes we simply feel worthless and feel like there is no reason that anyone should care for us.  Sometimes we wonder why people do care, because we honestly don’t even care.

Past the Loneliness…

So, how do we get past the loneliness?  How do we accept the love and concern and care that others offer to us?  How do we start caring again?

  • Through Christ:  It is ultimately through the atonement of Christ that we are not alone, that we can get past our loneliness.  He is the One who has gone through every thing that we have gone through and everything that we will go through in fulfilling the Father’s will by atoning for each of our sins and by suffering in the Garden of Gethsemane.  Isaiah 53: 4-5 explains this beautifully as it reads:
“Surely He hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows:  yet we did esteem Him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.  But He was wounded (pierced) for our transgressions, He was bruised (crushed) for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon Him; and with His stripes we are healed.”

  • Accepting our Identity:  As we truly come to know and accept who we are we can have a greater capacity to rely upon our Savior and our Father in Heaven.  We can do this as we accept ourselves as children of God, whom He loves and wants to bless and care for.  We are His children, and He is our Father.  His purpose is to help us.  He ultimately helps us through His Son, Jesus Christ.  This scripture in Doctrine and Covenants 76: 22-24 sums up our identity well:  
“And now, after the many testimonies which have been given of him, this is the testimony, last of all, which we give of Him:  That He lives!  For we saw Him, even on the right hand of God and we heard the voice bearing record that He is the Only Begotten of the Father-  That by Him and through Him and of Him, the worlds are and were created, and the inhabitants thereof are begotten sons and daughters unto God.”
  • Reaching Out:  As we reach out to those around us, we think less of ourselves and thus feel less lonely.  I am not saying that it is not important to care for ourselves, because that is vital, but as we reach out to others in service and kindness, we feel better about ourselves.  We feel this way because we are doing what Christ would do and what our Heavenly Father would want us to do in helping His children.
  • Living to have the Spirit of Christ:  As we live our lives in order to be able to feel God’s love for us through His spirit, we are able to feel comforted.  When we live in such a way that is in accordance to the Lord’s will for us and His commandments, we are better able to recognize His hand in our lives and feel of His love daily.


You are Never Alone
 

How have you seen the Lord’s hand in your life?  How can you know that you are never alone?   Where do you turn for comfort?  God never fails us.  He is there and He loves us.  Jesus Christ is truly my best friend.  I want to live my life in such a way that I show gratitude for that friendship and am a friend in return by following His example.  Christ is the reason why we are never alone.  Through His suffering on the cross and in the Garden of Gethsemane, He has experienced all that we have experienced and He is willing to go through it again as He walks with us in our lives.  Let us let Him heal us.  He lifts us up.  I am reminded of the footprints poem.  I know that He lives and that He is there to carry us through our hard times.